Healthy Christians have Faith and Obey with the Expectation of a Righteous Child toward His Parents

Psychology is a useful tool, and it can help us discern soulish problems.  But the answer to soulish problems goes beyond the answers taught by psychology!  The human spirit cannot be coerced by shifting guilt or any such maneuver.  It's all about faith; and it's about obedience to God in the areas that we do know, so that our conscience becomes clean, which enables us to trust that God will answer our prayers!  Sweat through the temptation, asking God to help and thanking Him afterward when we see the help.  Do everything by plain truth.  Reach out to Master Jesus and Daddy God and wait; abide in Christ; don't dismiss or look away from the reality of your sin, but know that He is faithful to separate you from it; expect Him to do so, and wait on Him to do so, and then, when you know you are very clean, ask Him your heart's desire at that time.  He has overcome the destruction in you when He saved you by your belief in the tenets of the gospel (see 1 Corinthians 15:1-8) and your single work of verbally confessing Master Jesus (see Romans 10:9a, 10b, 13), and He does overcome the sin you fight against as you believe the Resurrection (see Romans 10:9b-10a)!!  The Spirit who raised Christ from the dead raises you, dear Christian, and sin is simply not in your new nature.  You cannot change that new nature - don't worry - unless you did not sincerely believe the tenets of the gospel in the first place or continue to believe them, or if you resist confessing with your mouth Master Jesus.  So, there is salvation, which ax murderers could know, and then there is gaining righteousness (by believing the Resurrection!).  Having faith in God to give more life to us whom He has first enlivened, let us live boldly in Him, hating and immediately eradicating the smallest spot or blemish from our flesh, knowing, like Paul did, that when we serve sin, it's really our body doing it (Romans 7), but we still serve Christ with our mind.  It is buried when we are flagrant ax murderers (even in our hearts), but our new nature that serves Christ with the mind and lives by the law of the Spirit of Life is still deep inside there.  Nurture it by faith and obedience, more and more, a little at a time, toward more and more cleanliness, and THEN you will feel more and more love and devotion to Christ by His word through faith and not by psychological maneuvering or tricksy forgetting or any such dark hiding that sickens, frustrates and (like Lot) vexes our righteous souls.  Like a child who does not feel the burden of sin, ask God to make you love Him!