On the Preparation of Loving Communication

 There's an undercurrent, a blanket expectation, that if someone says something in front of you that's the least bit negative, that its meant to be a grating release of their emotions or something perceived as worthless. If they say it directly to you, this undercurrent drives an instant reaction of defensiveness, because it feels like an attack. But what if it's said with an expectation of objective consideration, even without the pressure of attack to drive it into the open? What if it's only of moderate concern by the speaker? I've heard people say that nobody takes things objectively, but that seems to just be another lesson to keep people from doing so. Analysis can be fatiguing and troubling to the soul, but this kind of communication with each other is a love rarely given, which is a shame. Even if it's hard, a little explanation about intentionality could open the line to communicate very - just highly! - useful information to us when we need it the most. If we only trusted each other more and cleared the undercurrent, we could help each other with this form of love. Tell the children why they think and feel things in the moment of their thoughts and feelings, and why they want to do things when they want them. Tell us all in ways we CAN accept; preparation that clears the expectation of hurtful words is useful.